Soul Shock - The real Soul Mate phenomenon

SOUL SHOCK - by Steve Gunn
internationally-acclaimed psychic and healer
An excerpt from his new eBook about Soul Mates 'When Two Souls
Connect'
'The human heart feels things the eyes cannot see,
and knows what the mind cannot understand.' -Robert Vallett
If you’ve met someone who’s changed you forever
If you love someone so much you realize you just weren’t alive
before them
If you’ve met someone who’s awakened you to the unbelievable
beauty of existence
If you’ve met someone who is more you than even you are
If you miss someone so much you can’t even conceive of existing
without them
If you've lost someone and it feels like your soul left with
them then read on…
Typical of many cases I deal with is the story of Fiona and
Robert.
I first met Fiona when she booked a telephone reading and I
realized she was suffering a great deal of pain and confusion
from the recent breakup of her relationship with Robert. I
recommended she seek healing and, a week later, she arrived at
my door.
I wish I had a cent for every tear that has been shed on that
end of my sofa -- it’s a wonder it isn’t afloat by now. Seeing
people in complete despair is a common occurrence for me but it
never gets any easier watching someone fall apart, not least
because I’ve been there. Some days, you just wonder what the
human race is coming to when people can hurt others in the way
this girl was hurting. However, she was here now and I was going
to help her.
Her total devastation and confusion was apparent and, as I read
both her energies and Robert’s, I realized this was a very
strong metaphysical ( soul mate ) connection, hence the level of
suffering she was enduring. She told me her story, described
what seemed an ideal relationship – until, in the midst of it,
Robert had turned tail and run without warning. To add to her
grief and despair, within a week he had hooked up with someone
else and told her he wasn’t coming back.
As in most of these cases, by tuning into him I knew he was in
love with her. Fiona, however, was in no position to believe
this, not based on his actions. It was totally clear to me,
however, that the bond between them was strong and had grown
ever stronger and stronger whilst they were together, to the
point that it scared the hell out of Robert.
How do you tell someone that a person they love has hurt them
because they love them too much? How do you explain that the
‘runner’ fears the intensity of the connection? I could tell
this other woman meant nothing to Robert and was just a shoulder
for him to cry on. But, to Fiona, it seemed he had been a
cheater and had callously lied about loving her. That’s a very
natural assumption when someone you trust totally turns a one
eighty and goes off with someone else without warning.
For those of us who are emotionally and spiritually open to
love on any level, the idea of someone running from happiness is
bizarre and cruel in the extreme. Fiona was struggling to make
sense of it and wasn’t winning at all, which added to her
immense grief.
As I began her healing and looked at what had happened to her
energies, I realized she was suffering from what I call ‘soul
shock.’ When someone you have a deep connection with suddenly
pulls away, the dis-connect leaves you feeling as if your soul
has left your body, like an empty shell. You just can’t get back
to reality and you can feel as if you simply exist.
This experience is similar to grieving the death of a loved one
and I know many counselors, at least those who accept and
understand connections, who will treat this pain in the same way
as a bereavement
. What we're talking about here is not a conventional emotional
relationship. A soul connection is the most powerful soul level
connection with someone and when separations like this occur you
just can't "get over it" or "move on" however hard you try. Many
people can't eat sleep or work for a long time, a lot end up on
medication and in counseling.
Even after more cases than I can remember, it never fails to
amaze me how powerful healing is and what a perfect tool it can
be for dealing with soul mate connections. I pulled Robert’s
energy away from Fiona’s so that she wasn’t being tugged around
like a leaf in a gale by his confusion. This process forced out
some of her grief.
Unexpressed emotions are debilitating and dangerous, so I
opened up her heart chakra and used a technique I call
‘accelerated bereavement.’ This acceleration brings out the
despair and pain in a burst of crying that’s so deep you know
it’s from the soul. But, after twenty minutes or so, this
incredible pain eases and the subject calms. That’s exactly what
happened with Fiona.
What is unique about soul connections is that we feel our
partner’s grief and confusion and they feel ours. This creates a
tsunami of pain as the energy flows across our spiritual link
and bounces each of us around like two corks on a string.
Putting a block in a place eases ‘soul shock’ tremendously, so
that’s what I did to allow Fiona a chance to get on her feet
again.
As the weeks and months went by, I saw her and treated her on a
regular basis. Throughout that time, she grew slowly but
progressively stronger, even as she continued to ache badly from
the pain of separation from Robert. When you are separated from
a soul mate, you miss your partner every minute of the day and
most days are nothing more than a torture of aching and needing.
The soul mate connection is unlike a conventional relationship
for, in these cases, the pain of separation doesn’t lessen. Some
days it feels as if your heart will burst out of your chest and
fly to your true partner.
Fiona experienced all of this and more, although with readings
and healing I was able to reduce the worst of the excesses and
keep up her hope that the situation would resolve itself and
Robert would come back. At times, she would call in total pain
and disbelief and ask how anything could hurt so much and why
couldn’t she just get over him? As always, I explained that a
connection so strong was something we have little control over
and, in time, he would return. While we wait, all we can do is
stay strong and accept what has happened. Trying to understand
why just adds to the torture.
In time, Robert did contact her. Fiona, however, found it very
difficult to talk to him. He frequently contradicted himself and
didn’t seem to have a clue what he was doing, how he felt or
what he wanted. This, of course, made it much harder for her to
be in contact with the man she loved so much, as she still
struggled to make sense of why he had run in the first place.
This is a very common albeit totally bizarre and bewildering
phase that nearly always occurs in these relationships. While
the more aware soul feels the immense sense of pain and loss,
the ‘runner,’ who mostly has a ton of issues, is absolutely
confused by the power of the connection and will seem to
contradict themselves and not know quite what’s going on. It’s
common to hear ‘I love you,’ then a week later, ‘I don’t love
you,’ and a host of other seemingly weird behaviors.
Understand, however, that this is your soul partner struggling
to understand what’s going on within them, as they are also
totally overwhelmed by the feelings and confusion that the
connection brings.
At this point, I asked Fiona to trust me and to follow some
simple rules for communication. She agreed when she realized the
present interaction was confusing her even more. I asked Fiona
to set out what she wanted from Robert, make it clear to him,
then to back away. To insist that, if and when he called, she
didn’t want to hear how bad his life was, especially after she
had offered everything to make him happy. And that if he could
not be there for her, then to put the phone down.
Staying strong in this phase takes an awful lot of guts and
faith when your runner seems so close to returning. To push them
away unless certain criteria are met is scary when you so fear
losing them again. But Fiona did it… And, as in most cases,
after a while it worked. It’s said that runners return properly
when the pain of separation is greater than the fear of
commitment.
And by refusing to negotiate on anything other than coming
together properly, Fiona made Robert realize he had to face this
once and for all or lose her.
They met, they talked, she called me. Robert had accepted he
couldn’t go on as he had and he was prepared to face his fears
and give it a go. Many more meetings occurred before Fiona was
sure he was ready and knew that he would face his fear of
commitment.
When finally they both came together again, and had put the
past behind them, Fiona asked Robert to come to me for a reading
and consultation. Seeing a runner is a rare opportunity for me,
because when most reconciliations occur, my work is done.
Robert arrived and it was apparent he had no idea what to
expect. I gave him a psychic reading and saw what was going on
within him and how he had struggled to make sense of the past
couple of years. What he said was a real eye opener for me, a
rare chance to see how the incredible intensity of a soul
connection can scare the daylights out of someone seemingly so
strong and together.
He started talking about a time before Christmas when he
realized just how deeply he felt for Fiona and, although he had
always shunned commitment of any sort, he had decided to ask her
to marry him. On his way to buy a ring, he talked to a friend
about marriage and said he suddenly became very scared and
unsure. He never did tell me what the friend said but whatever
it was plugged deep into his fears. After that, instead of
asking her to marry him, Robert told Fiona it was over and that
he had found someone else.
If you’re astounded reading this, so was I when I heard it. His
thinking was that he couldn’t go through with it and maybe he
wasn’t good enough for her.
What if he wasn’t ready, what if it didn’t work? All the other
fear and insecurity-based questions rose up in him. His thinking
was if she thought he had someone else, she could move on and
not follow him.
When runners run, they really do run. Robert had demonstrated
absolute mastery of the runner 180-degree speed turn. It was
obvious that this man was unsure about himself - never mind what
he could offer in a relationship. He made all his decisions from
the head, not the heart. He mistakenly assumed Fiona could ‘get
over it.’ It’s one of the most frustrating things when runners
make assumptions and don’t give the other partner a chance.
That’s just what this one did.
However, now Robert was back and he was talking to me and that
meant he wanted to understand what this was about and how he
could deal with it. This was a terrific omen for the couple’s
future.
The outcome was that Robert did start to deal with his demons.
His karmic lesson was to realize that he couldn’t live life by
purely mental decisions. He learnt that his heart wouldn’t stay
away and that fighting the connection only hurt them both and,
ultimately, didn’t work.
I now have an invitation to their wedding on my desk
Fiona and Robert’s case is very typical and, to my mind,
reinforces the same message - the heart always wins in the end.
For more information about WHEN TWO SOULS CONNECT, contact:
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