|
|
Enjoy, cherish and remember motherhood
Well, there's no such thing as failure in motherhood...in mybooks, anyway. And besides, by whose yardstick are we measuringfailure and success by, anyway? Motherhood is to be cherished,to be enjoyed and to be relished and remembered for the rest ofour lives. It amazes me how some people think that motherhood issomething that is to be endured. No, not to me.....
|
.and I am suremotherhood is not like to that many other mothers out thereeither. Sometimes, mothers are allowed to FEEL like failures We're onlyhuman beings, right? And mothers are human, therefore, we haveour strong and weak points. Some of us are better at cookingthan others. Some of us are better at earning money than others.Some of us are better at....say, diapering our kids than others.Therefore, being weak in one aspect of motherhood does not makea failure. I cook bad...and I mean, BAD. But I know I am patient in a lotof ways too. But I am not as patient as I would like to be - so,does THAT make me failure as a mother? Gee, I hope not. Why motherhood is to be cherished and remembered? A mother oncetold me that she lived each day raising her kids knowing thatone fine day, they'll be old enough to look after themselves andshe would be free. Although I was happy th...
...at she was doing herbest for her kids at that point in time, it occurred to me thatshe was merely enduring her motherhood days. We're mothersforever, not only when our kids need us. God didn't make mothersto be that way. Regardless of whether our kids need us to diaperor feed them or not, they remain our kids for the rest of theirlives....and ours. And it's because our kids won't need us forever that we shouldcherish our days as mothers! I live each day reminding myselfthat one day my kids are going to think I am dowdy and uncool.Right now, they think I am the funniest person on the planet.but not for long. Mothers do not own their kids. They borrow the kids from GodIt's true. While motherhood is forever, mothering is not.Therefore, we do not own our kids forever. We may stake a claimwhen they're young and need us as infants, but when they're oldenough, they will live their own lives and go on their ownadventures. They will make their own decisions and pay their ownbills (hopefully).We don't own our kids - if yes, only temporarily. We borrow themfor a little while and nurture them. That's our responsibility,our job. And once they are old enough to decide for themselvesand live on their own - we let them go. Motherhood, as I mentioned earlier, is to be enjoyed, cherishedand remembered. Because one day, we can have our livesback....and they will have their own. And all we have is thestacks of photos to remind us of the joy what motherhood hasbeen. 2006 © Marsha Maung...
|
