Help The Bride Plan Her Wedding
My daughter and fiancé have finally set the "big day" but now
comes the fun part of helping her plan her wedding.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm really looking forward to helping
my daughter but stress can do crazy things to a woman. This
could be a really fun experience if you look at the right way.
I'll just sit back and do what I'm told when I'm told.
In fact stress turns her into somewhat of a control freak. And
controllers can't give up control of any aspect of their lives.
They must always be in control, so the title "control freak" is
rightfully earned.
Now helping a control freak plan a wedding, can you imagine,
after all everything is going to have to be perfectly
controlled. Anything gone wrong is liable to land in quite a
burst of verbal displeasure.
Now as the helper you have some choices. You can either step
back and find the situation quite amusing and thus keep your
sanity. Or you can get drug into the chaos and panic and loose
your sanity. I'm opting for the amusing approach.
Watching a control freak plan their wedding is rather like
watching a juggler with about 12 extra balls. Your just waiting
for one to drop! And eventually one will and all you can do is
be their to pick up the pieces.
It all began with choosing the "perfect date." Now a sane
person would wonder what does a perfect date look like, but a
control freak spends hours going through each month and each
date listing the pros and cons until they are satisfied they
have found the perfect date.
God help us all if the weather decides to not co-operate. But
that's okay after a few stressful day my control freak daughter
has decided that August 16th 2006 will be a perfect day.
To the sane person it will be a perfect day no matter what goes
wrong, but to my control freak daughter all I can hope is that
the day is truly perfect in every way!
Well our next mission was the gown and if you have never
shopped with a control freak you will not understand how amusing
this can be. At least from the view point I've chosen to take.
Grant it some moments are enough to make your hair stand up and
shout "Stop you're driving me crazy." A couple of deep breaths
and the amusement returns.
A normal soul will know that there is no such thing as the
perfect wedding dress or the perfectly fitted wedding dress
right off the rack. Yes a wedding dress can become perfect but
it may take some alterations.
Shopping for that wedding gown with a control freak leads to
comments such as the sleeves are too puffy, the train slides
just a little to the right, the v neck is ˝" from perfect, the
.....Well you get the picture. They are looking for perfect by
definition in their brain.
Many of the gowns my daughter tried on were perfect as far as I
could tell. She looked beautiful, breathtaking, and sexy all the
things a bride should be. But to her it was not "perfect."
As luck would have it one bridal show as she shifted through
the gowns this beautiful dress jumped out at her. When she tried
it on it fit her perfectly and not only by my definition but by
her own.
Not an alteration needed, not a tuck, not a hem. It was infact
perfect. So you see even the control freak can find a perfect
gown.
Our last adventure was in locating the perfect place for a
reception. My control freak daughter has yet to find the place
that makes her feel safe and in control.
Thankfully she still has time and as luck goes I'm certain we
will find that perfect place. I'm sure they'll be plenty more
highlights before she has her wedding planned.
The message here is not to make fun or chastise the control
freak, after all we all have our faults, but rather to point out
that no matter how stressed you become while planning your
wedding it will all come together. Besides I believe every
future bride turns into a bit of a control freak when planning
her wedding.
So control freak are not you don't have to settle for anything
less than your definition of perfect and with some shopping
you'll be able to find it for a price within your budget.
Just remember that your wedding will be "perfect" just because
it is your special day!
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